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Things to do on a first date...
MichelleI try to stay far away from the average-run-of-the-mill dinner and movie first date combos. You can't really get to know one another because: 1. You're too concerned about getting food stuck in your teeth at dinner, and 2. Talking during a movie is a definite no-no. So my suggestion for the pivotal first date is to do something a little more interactive. Why not try having lunch in the park, going for a walk, or going to an amusement park? These activities are fun, and they let you discover very quickly if you want a second date with the guy.
My favourite first date ever was when I met my date downtown at a street festival and we ended up walking around the city for a few hours. It turned out to be a great idea because for a couple of hours we were able to uncover so much information about each other that we would not necessarily obtain during dinner and a movie.
After our long walk, we slipped into a secluded restaurant and had a few drinks. It was such a beautiful night because we sat by candlelight in a very dark, but intimate setting, and we told each other how much we liked each other. Needless to say, this date led to many more dates.
So if you really want to get to know your date, skip the dinner and the flick, and do something where you have the opportunity to get to know your date. ¤ Michelle
Christine
Like Michelle, I too find that the movie and dinner hybrid can be a little…boring. Of course, it is slightly better than, say, going to a club (do you really want to try to talk to someone there? Are you really prepared to see them drunk? Are you prepared to see them drunk and then trying to gyrate their hips into you?).
The best way to determine what's unusual but right for you on the first date is to get to know the guy a little better before setting things up. If you find that you have general interests in common right off the bat, you can plan accordingly. If you both love nature, find a nature trail near home that you can explore, or go down to the lake/marina/beach for some ice cream and conversation, or rollerblade in the park. If you love jazz music, find a nice jazz club that will keep your toes tapping and the conversation flowing (try to get there an hour before the sets starts, that way you can talk before the music takes over). If you like animals, trek down to the zoo and feed some llamas.
The dinner and movie package is still good, if that's what you're both into, as is the case with me (a good movie and a big, juicy steak…I'm having a Homer moment). I don't mind doing that on the first date, granted that it's a mutual decision and not just something to do. I find that the first dates where both people are struggling to find something to do, don't usually work in our favour. There are just too many first dates of mine that have started off with a movie and dinner…and didn't pan out much further than that. One of the best first dates that I've been on started out this way, but went well into the night as we took a walk downtown, stopped off for coffee, and walked some more. It just comes down to interest - if you're interested enough, then finding something that both people will enjoy will come naturally.
So, Christine says, for the best first dates, find something that will keep both of you interested (I know that many people say, it doesn't matter what you're doing as long as you're with someone you want to do it with - but you wouldn't ask someone to go to the dentist or the library with you on the first date), and will give you plenty of opportunity for conversation and flirting. If the first date goes well, you will have ample opportunity to do the dinner and movie thing later on. ¤ C.Ho.