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Dear Angry Black Grrl:
Gossip folk, irritating in-laws, to kiss or not to kiss...
Dear Angry Black Grrl,
GOT A QUESTION?
ADVICE OF THE MONTH
I went to a party with some friends where I met Bob. Bob and I eventually found our way to one of the upstairs bedrooms, where he passed out from drinking too much. I went back downstairs and joined my friends again. Now Bob is going around telling everyone that we did the deed, even though it's a blatant lie. I tried to tell my side of the story, but everyone seems to have their own opinion. It's really starting to affect my social life, and I don't want people to think that I would actually sleep with someone named Bob. What should I do?
Chaste and ChastisedSorry sister, but you need to stop right there. What do you mean by "Bob and I found our way to one of the upstairs bedrooms"? Oh, so y'all were going to play some dominoes up there, huh?
So you feel that your social life has been tarnished over this? Girl, please. Who cares that stupid, drunk people at a whackass party thought you and Bob got your freak on. C'mon girl. You know who you are. So, if they don't want to listen to your side of the story, then you need to stop telling it. If they judge you by something that you didn't even do, then tell them to go to hell, and then look for some new friends.
The next thing you do is find Bob and cuss him out and beat him down!
Dear Angry Black Grrl,
I recently became married. The wedding cost a fortune, and as a result my husband and I have been living with his parents until we can get on our feet. I get along well enough with my father-in-law, but it's my mother-in-law who won't get past her dreams of having a perfect daughter-in-law. She's always criticizing me, whether it's my cooking, my hair, my ironing, or the way I eat my soup. I talked to my husband about this and suggested that we stay with my godmother, but he doesn't seem to think that his mother is acting strange at all. You have to help me before I do something I am going to regret.
B. T.Don't you know that you can't say somethin' bad about someone's mama? Especially your man's mama? You know they ain't trying to hear that. At least you put it out there and told your husband how you feel, 'cuz I'm sure that she must be workin' your last nerve! It was nice that your boo suggested that you guys look for another place to live - it shows that he's taking your feelings into consideration. Well, it also seems like his mom is not gonna change the way she feels about you, and girl, don't even try to please her. If she can't accept you for who you are, then she's got the issues.
Dear Angry Black Grrl,
My friend cut her hair and it looks hideous. Should I tell her?
Fashion PoliceYou know I like to talk about hair - weaves, afros, braids, cornrows...oh, my bad, back to your question.
If your friend's 'do is totally messed up, then you need to tell your girl. Isn't that what friends are for? Maybe she can style it differently so that she looks good. Think about it, do you want to walk down the street with her and everyone's pointing and laughing at you at your homegirl? I didn't think so. So ya better book the appointment and get her to a salon immediately.
Dear Angry Black Grrl,
To kiss or not to kiss on a first date?
T. R.I can't believe I'm actually answering this question, but I will for your naive ass. Hell yes, it's all right to kiss on the first date. It's how YOU feel about the person. I don't suggest hittin' the sheets on the first date, but a little kiss ain't gonna hurt nobody. ¤ Michelle