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Friends With Exes:
Can you still be friends with your ex?
Well…the answer is yes. Keep in mind that this not the case for everyone, but I am lucky enough to get along with the guys that I have dated in the past, and eventually broke up with.
Can a broken heart mend in time for friendship?
One of my closest friends is my ex from three years ago. Mind you, I did go through a period of hating his guts (and plotting his demise), but once we were able to forgive and forget, our friendship was inevitably able to bloom.
We have remained friends mainly because we are able to communicate as friends as opposed to lovers. When we were dating, we were both a little hesitant about revealing the things that we needed to work on in order to make our relationship run smoothly. Once we broke up, we were more than willing to tell each other what we hated about each other.
Some might say that maintaining a friendship with an ex is just asking for trouble (i.e. holding on to the past). But I believe that it really depends on how you feel towards that person.
Check out the following list and judge for yourself whether or not you and your ex can still be friends:
These guidelines are not written in stone. Being a friend to your ex is not mandatory. If you want to continue the friendship that was cultivated, then use every effort to make it successful. ¤ Michelle
- If you still have feelings for him, then I say walk away. But if you genuinely enjoy his friendship, then why not?
- If you are no longer sexually attracted to him, then there is a chance for friendship.
- Depending on what happened for the breakup to occur, if you feel that you are able to forgive and forget, then go for it.