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Hanging With Da Boyz:
Friendships with the opposite sex...
They may be crude, disgusting, have a one track mind (me too!), spit and constantly adjust themselves in front of me, but I gotta love men.
Hanging with guys has its advantages, like getting a rare glimpse into the often elusive male psyche.
Since I was a little girl, I've always had a lot of male friends. And believe me, I never understood why. It wasn't as if I was the hot chick in class (let's just say that back in the day, I was not breaking any hearts), but I seemed to be the type of girl that most guys felt at ease with. I didn't question it, I actually preferred hanging with guys than with the bratty little girls.
On my first day to a new school in grade four, I distinctly remember being befriended by a boy, while all the girls in my class just ignored me. He was a funny, friendly guy who told the nastiest jokes, and also made sure that I wasn't offended by the jokes (well, I was sometimes - he was nasty!!!). We immediately became close, and consequently his friends became my friends.
That friendship lasted for four years.
Throughout high school and university, I hung out with my female friends, but I joked around more with the fellas. They were a total fascination to me. I would laugh to myself [I see things haven't changed - Chris] when I listened to them trying to out-macho one another (who had a better car, how many women they slept with, etc.). It was funny watching these guys trying to prove who the "bigger" man was.
The downside to having a lot of male friends is that they see you as their little sister - someone that they want to protect and not date. I know that I shouldn't complain, but sometimes that sucked. In the past I've been attracted to a couple of my male friends, but nothing ever happed because of the "little sister" factor.
However, crossing the line from a friend to a lover is very tricky. Be warned - is losing a friendship for sex really worth it??? NO!!!
Throughout the years I have still managed to maintain a good rapport with men. I must confess - I do have an ulterior motive. Having a lot of male friends gives me insight into the male psyche. I get to know what they are looking for in a girl, what turns them on and what turns them off. So when I am looking for a potential boyfriend I can use my knowledge of men for good (and not evil!!!).
My advice to the girls out there: Instead of having a day with the girls at the mall (the most hated place on EARTH [I hear that - Chris]), take a break from them and spend some time kicking back with the boyz. Trust me, you will learn a lot! ¤ Michelle