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Michelle's Dating Diary:
Break-ups...
Looks like Christine is not the only single gal of the Happygrrls crew. Yes, I too have gained entry into the Singles Club.
MICHELLE'S JAM
Damn, I was happy for a year when I wasn't looking for someone. I was chillin' with my man and did not see the need for anyone else's attention. Given that I kept my relationship on the downlow for a while (I was dating a younger man - at the beginning I was a little nervous, however, that feeling soon faded!!), my friends started to wonder what was up with me.
I was acting a little strange - like not checkin' out men at clubs, not noticing when men were checkin' me out - I couldn't help it, all I wanted to do was be around my man. No one could even step into his badass shoes.
Well, that feeling lasted for a while.
Towards the end of the relationship, I realized that I could no longer be Ashanti to his Ja Rule. I kinda figured that out when we started to argue every time that we saw each other. They weren't big fights, but we couldn't let a few hours pass without disagreeing about something. (Not fun, y'all.)
Just one day before the impending breakup, an acquaintance of mine told me to "breakup with your man and hook up with me." I knew in my heart that my relationship was damaged beyond repair, but I was DEFINITELY not tryin' to date his ass. He later went on to tell me that he wanted to make love to me and that he would have me screaming all night long. I laughed at him (Slice had a better chance at that, and that wasn't likely - read the Moment of the Month for more details) and told him that he needed to work on his approach. Nevertheless, I declined his punkass offer. (But brothaman still persisted - I got a call from him just yesterday asking for some. My response: HELL NO!!!)
Well, the breakup came as no surprise. The good thing about it was that it was a pretty amicable split. No drama, no name calling, we just parted ways. I was initially very upset, but also a bit relieved. We both were off in different directions, and we knew that we could not give each other what we needed at the time. We have remained friends and talk on a somewhat regular basis.
I loved the cool time that we had together and I have no regrets.
Has this experience changed me in any way?? Made me bitter and hate men?? Nope. It just made me recognize what I do want and what I don't want from a relationship (I always say this after a break up). Will I ever date a younger man??? Why not! ¤ Michelle