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Michelle's Dating Diary:
Two guys + Michelle = one single girl…?
You'd think that two guys plus one single girl would equal one very happy girl, but it has left me a very lonely and frustrated girl.
THE ASTERISK
I'm sure that most females would agree with me when I say that it feels good to get some attention from the fellas. Someone to tell you that you look beautiful, that you are fun to be around - basically, someone telling you things that you long to hear. But on the other hand, it is usually appreciated more when the sudden interest in you is from someone that you, in fact, like.
Here is my dilemma: I've been receiving the most attention that a girl could ever wish for from a friend that I have known for almost 10 years. He knows me well (at times), and I know him (or what he wants me to know…). Like most friendships, we've been through our ups and our downs. However, lately, he's been acting more like a potential boyfriend than one of my boys. He has called me just to say hi, he's picked me up from work, and he has brought me food (the boy ain't dumb, he knows the way to my heart!!). The only problem is that I'm not sure if I see him as a potential boyfriend or just a friend. I am extremely terrified of losing our friendship. Everyone knows that the easiest way to kill a friendship is to have sex with a friend. And I ain't going out like that! So I decided to ignore his advances and just smile at him whenever he said anything remotely sexual.
Just when I thought that I was going to lose my mind from all of the attention from my fake boyfriend, Oscar* entered the picture. I met him at a party a couple of months ago and we ended up talking to each other for the entire night. He was nice, he laughed at all of my jokes, and he appeared to have a pleasant disposition. I liked talking to him, but I wasn't sure if I was feelin' him. The fact that he was from my age group was a definite bonus. My dating life has suffered since prepubescent males are the only guys to step to me.
As I was ready to leave the party, he asked me for my contact info. I'm not sure if it was the liquor working, but I quickly gave him my business card, which has my phone number plastered all over it. (Psst: this is something I almost never do. I find it hard to give out my number to someone that I hardly know.) I felt relieved to later find out that he is a friend of a friend.
A week almost passed before I received an e-mail from him. I was wondering if he still remembered me. His e-mail was short and basically asked how my week was going. I sent an equally short e-mail saying that my week was quite hectic.
Surprisingly, Oscar e-mailed me a week later and asked the same question, "How was your week?" As much as I love to read e-mails, his weren't saying much. I wasn't sure if I was interested in him or not, so I continued to send him PG e-mails.
I had received a few more e-mails from him and then they abruptly stopped. I wasn't too sure if I bored him to death with my stories about my job, or if he was an exceptionally shy guy (I'm betting on the second reason as I never spoke about my job!).
At first I thought that his shyness was endearing, but his bashful nature became a big turn-off. I didn't expect him to proclaim his undying love for me, but if he wanted to go on a date, the next logical step was for him to ask, no?
I recently received an e-mail from him asking me to call him, so I did (I know you're wondering why…me too!). We played phone tag for a week and then I decided that it was going nowhere. I'm sure that he is a nice guy, but not the guy that I am looking for.
So to recap, my fake boyfriend gave up trying to woo me and I haven't heard from him in ages, and Oscar, a.k.a. Shy Boy, disappeared into the night.
To tell you the truth, after having to deal with those two men, I feel happy to be a single girl. ¤ Michelle