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Am I too damn nice or too damn stupid?
In the last issue of Happygrrls, I wrote that I met someone at a networking function in early June. He was cool, older, and hella funny, so I thought, why not just go out on at least one date with the guy?
MICHELLE ASKS...
CHRISTINE SAYS...
I gave him one of my biz cards that night, so he e-mailed me first thing on Monday morning for my digits. We spoke practically everyday that week. It was nice, but I was feelin' a definite friendship vibe.
Before Phil (name changed to protect the not-so-innocent) and I went on the date, he told me that he didn't have that much money. I know, grrls - you would have told him to go straight to hell, but I was okay with that because I'm not livin' the high life either. He then suggested that we go for dessert instead of dinner. I thought that was even better because I have a sweet tooth and I am down for anything with chocolate. He then repeated that he was low on funds. I got a little annoyed and jokingly said, "We could go to McDonald's then." (Yes, I did say that. I needed to say something so he would shut the hell up about his broke ass).
So we met downtown and Phil nonchalantly told me, "There is a McDonald's up the street." Brothaman was serious about us dining at Mickey Dees for our first date! I was a trooper (I know, bad move), and I actually continued the date with this misinformed man.
We arrived at the fast food joint and Phil asked me what I wanted. I very proudly told him that I wanted a chocolate sundae - no peanuts! He then instructed me to get in line. Yes, this cheap ass idiot did not attempt to go into his pocket and pay for the sundae. Yo, guy, you couldn't even shell out two bucks for dessert at Mickey Dees???
Anyways, I bought my sundae and Phil's too, 'cuz I got some manners. Also, because I knew at that moment that:
Back to the drama…
- Sometimes I can be too accommodating and settle for less. I don't expect a man to shower me with gifts, but it would have been nice if he attempted to go into his pocket. Believe me, I have NO problems picking up the tab for anyone that I like.
- I am a damn good woman. Even though I had to endure a really bad/weird date, I know that there is someone out there who can handle this sweet sista.
- I don't want Phil.
We walked back to his car and engaged in some conversation. I have no idea about what, as I was mentally picturing myself at home on my computer. Phil drove me home after the "date" (I use that term loosely) and we said goodnight. Oh hell no, he didn't get a kiss, but I hope he learned a valuable lesson from the date: "Come correct, or don't come at all."
I'm pretty sure that Phil is not a bad or malicious person; he, however, exercised some really poor judgment. It wasn't just the money thing that turned me off, there were a few other things that were cause for concern - unresolved issues, some freaky behaviour…but all in all, the night was not a total disaster. I got back in the dating game (when I will return - I don't know) and my friends got a good laugh at my expense. Thanks, guys! ¤ Michelle