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Dear Angry Black Grrl:

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Cheap friends, sexy pasts, nosy mothers, Brazilian waxes...

GOT A QUESTION? Having a hard time getting over the last break-up? Think your parents are treating you unfairly? E-mail Angry Black Grrl at help AT happygrrls DOT come. Don't let the name fool you - she's actually as gentle as a newborn kitten. ADVICE OF THE MONTH On cheap friends: Keep saying no until he gets the picture. If he is cheap and dumb, then you need to be upfront and tell him that if he wants to go out and have fun, he's gonna have to spend a little dough.

Dear Angry Black Grrl,
I have a friend, who is a wonderful person, but a little on the cheap side. He never wants to do anything that requires money. I'm okay with that, but it puts a strain on our friendship because we don't go out and do anything fun. He works, and I know he has money. How do I approach him?
Scrooged

What do y'all do if you are not spending any money?? Please tell me that you ain't spendin' your hard earned money on his cheap ass. So this is what you are gonna do. Whenever he asks you to do some free (read: boring) stuff, just say no. Keep saying no until he gets the picture. If he is cheap and DUMB, then you need to be upfront and tell him that if he wants to go out and have fun, he's gonna have to spend a little dough.

Dear Angry Black Grrl,
I recently started getting serious with my boyfriend, and one night we had one of those prerequisite sex talks. During that conversation, he found out that I had slept with more people than he had. He said he was cool with it, but now every time I try to initiate some intimate contact he brushes me off. What should I do?
Ain't No Ho, But My Man Might Think So

Was the number of men that you slept with so HIGH that your man don't even want some from you anymore? If it wasn't that high and he's just being a little punk, you need to tell him that you love him and that you only want to be with him. If he is still actin' like a little girl, withhold any intimate contact from him. After a few days, his horny ass will come back to you and beg for forgiveness.

Dear Angry Black Grrl,
My mother read my diary and found out that I'm not a virgin anymore. Our relationship has become very strained after this. We used to be very close, but now she won't talk to me, and I'm still upset that she breached my privacy. I don't know what to do!
N.V.

I guess I got to be a little serious for this one.

Well N.V., you have to realize that your mom is going to be a little upset and disappointed because she found out something that she didn't want to face. I know that she read your diary, which is a total violation of your privacy, but you have to at least respect her feelings. The only thing that I could advise is that you confront your mom and ask her if she wants to talk. That will open the lines of communication and you can discuss how you feel. You should also mention to your mom that she has to respect your privacy and that your diary is for your eyes only. Good luck, girl!

Dear Angry Black Grrl,
My boyfriend wants me to get a Brazilian wax. I think that's gross. What do you say?
Scared of Wax in Weird Places

What do I say...DAAAAMMMMN!!! Would you go through all of that pain just to make your boo happy?? Not me. I suggest that you do whatever makes YOU happy, not what your man wants you to do. ¤ Michelle