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Need to Bring Sexy Back:
A few things to sex up your relationship...
Are you stuck in a relationship rut? Do you need a little somethin’ somethin’ to put the spice back into your relationship? Well, through some research combined with my very own personal experience, I have compiled a short list of things that you can do to put the oomph back into your relationship!
Okay, so you’ve been dating your man for a long time and you’ve passively sat back watching the fire fizzle. Instead of taking a laid-back approach, why not be proactive and inject some much-needed spark back into your relationship? Don’t panic, all you have to do is put a little bit of effort into making things work. This trusty piece of advice applies to married women too. Just because you have that ring on your finger does not mean that you can’t keep it steamy! I’m not saying that everything that I recommend will have you and your man acting like horny teenage lovers, but through these activities, it will allow you to reconnect with your mate.
It is true that it is almost impossible to match the excitement that you felt when you first started dating your man. You were completely smitten by him and everything that he did was cute and thoughtful. The way he laughed, the way he chewed his food — they all made him special. Fast-forward a couple of years and I’m sure that you no longer find his belching and grunting cute anymore. We can all agree that when it gets to that point, it is a good time to put the heat back into things.
The first thing that I would like to suggest is for you and your man to enjoy a romantic dinner together. We often find ourselves caught up with work, school or friends, and we sometimes forget that “couple time” is important. While rushing to get through a long stressful day, you’re either eating on the run, in front of the television set, or you’re both eating at different times. Over a long period, it can create a breakdown in intimacy, resulting in a lack of connection. Spending an hour or two enjoying a romantic dinner with your man on a regular basis will definitely increase the intimacy that you are missing.
For your special dinner you can make reservations at your favourite restaurant — perhaps the place where you had your first date — or if you’re feeling up to it, you can prepare a meal yourself. For those that are not too confident in the kitchen (like myself), ordering take out and having a romantic meal in your living room can also be very sensual.
If you want to add yet another level of passion to your special meal, surprise your sweetheart with a picnic basket filled with delicious treats and head out to a secluded park. Enjoying a meal together — with no interruptions — allows you time to have real conversation, share your feelings and enjoy each other’s company. This shows your man that you put a lot of thought into making the day special and that you devoted the time to be together.
The next suggestion that I would like to share is not only beneficial for your man, but can make you feel better too! Don’t underestimate the need for owning good lingerie. As frivolous as that statement sounds, wearing pretty things makes us feel more confident, which in turn makes us feel sexy. I’m not saying that every night you should slip into bed wearing slinky sleepwear, but for one (maybe two, three…) nights you can ditch the sweatpants and old t-shirt and wear something that celebrates your body. Don’t think that you have to be a Victoria Secret model to wear lacey feminine intimates. Once your man catches a glimpse of you in a beautiful camisole or thong, he’ll be all over you!
This brings me to the last thing that I would like to recommend. I will say that this is an activity for the more adventurous female. One sure fire way to add a healthy dose of zest into your relationship is to appeal to your man’s senses. Since men are very visual beings, they respond to things that catch their eye. My suggestion to the daring sistas is to do a striptease for your man. Before you freak out and think that you aren’t in the best shape or you’re too shy to do it, remember this, your man loves you and appreciates all that you do for him. Also, it’s not entirely about the actual striptease; it’s more about the art of seduction. You don’t have to put on an hour routine or invest in a stripper pole — you’re just playfully enticing him, reminding him that you are still very attracted to him. If you’re not too sure of how to do a striptease, there are plenty of classes available in the GTA that can teach you some basic techniques.
I hope you enjoyed my list of fun activities. Even though relationships are a lot of fun, it still takes some work to be successful. But don’t forget to have fun! ¤ Michelle